|Daddy and Son, 3 Days Old|
In her post, the blogger mentioned that she is choosing not to breast feed because, to sum it up, it makes me husband feels left out of the parenting process. That she gets this intense bond and responsibility with the baby and daddy gets nothing. To that, I say this: If that's the case, you're doing it wrong.
|Being Comforted By Daddy, 1 Month Old|
Even during our night in the hospital my husband was a life saver of a father. I could feed my son, no problem, but soothing him was another story. That his dad could do a lot better than I. So started our equal parenting adventure. I would feed our son, he would sooth him.
You see, when my son sees me, he thinks "foooood!". Whether he is hungry or not. If he doesn't get fed instantly he often gets upset. So if we know he isn't hungry and just needs to be soothed and comforted, and don't want to risk over feeding him, it's my husband to the rescue. It is adorable watching the two of them snuggle on the couch or my son passing out on his legs as my husband sways him back and forth.
|Daddy and Baby, A Special Kind of Bond|
So, clearly, my breastfeeding our baby is not in any way taking away from his abilities at being an awesome father and bonding with our son. There is a lot he does and a lot he will do in the future, long after our son is weaned. As with all children, your situation may be different. However, no matter your situation feeding a baby is not the only way to bond with them, and feeding is not the only responsibility parents have.
Listen, if you don't want to breast feed, don't. Plain and simple. There's nothing wrong with formula, so no need to come up with some horrible excuse just to justify your decision. And if you do want to breastfeed, please do! I am very pro-breastfeeding (if you can't tell). Do it, and don't feel like your taking anything away from your baby's father by doing so. Dad's have many, many roles to play in the upbringing of a child. Maybe that includes feeding, but maybe not. Whether it does or does not it in no way takes away from their ability to be a great father who is fully active in his children's lives from the day they are born.